Sometimes you see one of your idols on TV and it just makes you feel bad. ‘cause man they are great. Just looking at them speak for a minute makes you want to tell them your entire life story along with all of your intimate, embarrassing struggles. You can’t help but smile and think they’re absolutely perfect. Robert Downey Jr, Barack Obama, Emma Watson. Just…wow. There’s something to be said for not taking everyone at face value. Never meet your heroes is a famous phrase for a reason. But still, they manage to pull it off, at least for the time they’re on screen.
Jealous? No need! Olivia Fox Cabane, regular speaker to many Fortune 500 companies and Charisma coach, lays it all out in her book The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism. An interesting read with plenty of practical tips. Let’s get into it.
The importance of mental state
As much tricks as we can apply – and they can improve our charisma – Cabane states that our internal state must first be aligned with what we are trying to convey. If we’re not being authentic others will notice and our charisma will take a deep dive. To get into this state, she dives into the power of our mind and the relationship it has with our body. For example, vividly imagine:
- Your favorite piece of music
- Nails going over a chalkboard
- Eating a really, really sour lime